Breakups can be devastating and can take a toll on your self-confidence and even your mental health. It’s really hard to manage all the emotions that come with a breakup because besides having to deal with all the conflict, drama, arguments, and toxicity, breakups are triggering. There are so many wounds that get poked and so many destructive intrusive thoughts that invade our minds.

If you are suffering from a broken heart, the world may seem like it’s crumbling around you, and you can (and you must) build yourself up. That’s what I am doing and inviting you to do. I have been dealing with so much pain and confusion and I’m using all the tools I have at my disposal to stay positive through the heartache.

One of the ways I am recovering from breakup and betrayal is by using positive affirmations. Positive Affirmations are phrases or declarations we say out loud on a daily basis and as many times as it feels right to train our thinking. Positive Affirmations can serve as little reminders that can help you go through the day with more ease and peace, and they also have the power to help rewire your brain to create a long-term positive change that can help you heal your broken heart after a breakup or divorce.

The intense grief you experience at the end of a relationship is real, but it is necessary to remember that your thoughts can help or hinder your ability to heal. It is harder to move forward after a breakup or betrayal when you forget yourself and your worth. The feeling of worthlessness has been creeping up on me more often than I’d even like to admit, but instead of shaming myself for my anxiety and self-defeating thoughts, I resolve to do something about it.

Positive Affirmations can help you get over a breakup because they help refocus your thinking. Thoughts and feelings of anger, hate, resentment, sadness, regret, self-blame, and will naturally come, so by choosing your thoughts wisely and deliberately, you are taking charge of your life, mastering your feelings, and slowly reframing this experience.

S-L-O-W-L-Y is such an important word here. I cannot tell you how many nights I haven’t been able to sleep and the days ran together like a giant ugly cry, feeling broken, ruined, unlovable, hopeless, and lost. Then I upgraded to crying myself to sleep, and though I’m better now, I have random crying spells and I start thinking thoughts that add suffering to my pain.

It’s perfectly normal for you to not fully believe the Positive Affirmations as you recite them at first. Heartbreaks crush you inside out, but in time, these positive mantras will be ingrained in your subconscious mind and move you from grief to peace. I can’t say I’m quite there yet, but I’ve used Positive Affirmations to heal and move on from excruciating pain before and I know they work and I can feel them working now!

If you’re going through the torture of breakup or divorce, read these positive affirmations right now to help heal your broken heart!

Positive Affirmations To Help Heal Your Broken Heart After Breakup or Betrayal

1. I am a being of love
2. I am loved and lovable
3. I forgive myself
4. I forgive my ex
5. I have power over my own life
6. My wounds are healing
7. I am deserving of love
8. I am releasing the past
9. I am learning to trust myself
10. There is something better waiting for me
11. I am whole on my own
12. I matter
13. I am excited about this new beginning
14. I am capable of loving again
15. I am learning to love myself unconditionally
16. It is getting easier day by day
17. I am enough
18. I have a lot to offer
19. I am becoming stronger
20. Everything is unfolding as it is supposed to
21. I honor the love I shared
22. I can find happiness in any situation
23. I am grateful for the lessons
24. I am excited to start my new life
25. I choose happiness, health, and harmony
26. I enjoy spending time with myself
27. I am free to be the best version of me
28. I am likable, lovable, and worthy of love
29. I am finding peace
30. I am allowing myself to feel joy, laugh, and smile
31. I am working on me, for me
32. I am allowing myself to feel all my emotions
33. My heart is opening up to new possibilities
34. I am capable of trusting again
35. I attract positive and healthy relationships
36. This is just a small part of my story
37. I am learning to trust the process
38. I know I have worth and value
39. I am healing more and more every day
40. I am allowing myself to let go
41. I am an attractive person
42. I will open my heart when I am ready
43. I give all relationships my all
44. I am loved

As you recite these simple Positive Affirmations, your suffering will start to fade. It’s tempting to try to rush the healing process, but you must allow yourself to feel your pain as you keep taking steps to help you recover from the trauma of betrayal and the sorrow of breaking up.

Don’t get discouraged if you still feel sadness or rage, or if you find yourself wondering how to get over the agony you’re feeling, or even feel hopeless that you ever will. The negative thoughts and negative self-talk won’t magically dissipate, but as you pay attention to your thinking and say these Positive Affirmations, you can find increased peace and acceptance to soothe your sorrow. 

Another benefit of incorporating Positive Affirmations into your daily routine is that you’re investing time and effort in your mental health and sanity, which sends a message to your subconscious mind that you are worth it, and that is the real truth.

I encourage you to tap into the healing power of Positive Affirmations to recover from a failed relationship, regain a positive self-image, and help repair the emotional damage the betrayal caused you. May they help you feel bold, fierce, and powerful again!

Do you know any Positive Affirmations for getting over a breakup and healing a broken heart? Share your favorite Positive Affirmations in the comments below!

Elayna is a single mom of 4, award-winning Storyteller, Story Strategist, and Student of Pain. She’s a bestselling author, internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, and 4x TEDx speaker. Founder of the Positive MOM® and creator of the S.T.O.R.Y. System: a blueprint to craft and share powerful stories that will transform your results, so you can have the wealth, opportunities, and freedom you deserve. Connect with Elayna Fernández at thepositivemom.com/keynote-speaker and follow @thepositivemom. To receive a gift from Elayna, click HERE.

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