7 Ways To Prevent and Stop Bullying In All Its Forms

October is the National Bullying Prevention Month.  Bullying is a trending topic that has everyone talking.  Bullying, however, is not a new issue. It is a sickness that has existed since the world begun and that has increasingly grown and widely spread as the world changes and new technology is available.

Stop bullying, bullying kills

Stop bullying, bullying kills

While I am happy about the newfound awareness and enthusiasm to prevent and stop bullying, I am concerned that we may be simply medicating the symptoms.

There are 3 main types of bullying activity:

  1. Physical: the most commonly known form; includes hitting, kicking, spitting, pushing, and taking personal belongings.
  2. Verbal: includes taunting, malicious teasing, name-calling, and making threats.
  3. Psychological:involves spreading rumors and hurtful, threatening messages or images, manipulating social relationships, and engaging in social exclusion, extortion, or intimidation.

Kids, teens and adults today use the Internet, mobiles and related technologies to harm other people, in a deliberate, repeated, and hostile manner. This involves the verbal and psychological type of bullying known as Cyberbullying.

My motto is “the Virtual World is just like the Real World…MAGNIFIED.” School ends about 3 p.m., but the Internet and Mobile worlds are accessible 24/7 all year round, providing no escape for the victims. The use of technology also gives the bully channels with massive endless reach.

The statistics are alarming and the effects are devastating. Bullying, in all its forms, is a harmful practice to all involved: the bully, the victim, and the witnesses or bystanders.   

What we do at home to “train a child in the way s/he should go” will determine the role they will play in social settings they encounter. As parents, we have the privilege and responsibility to guide our children, and that requires time.  Research shows that parents in the U.S.A. spend an average of 3.5 minutes of meaningful conversation with their children. We must take time to spend with our children and find – and create – teachable moments throughout the day, each day.

7 Ways To Prevent and Stop Bullying In All Its Forms

  1. Teach your children the Golden Rule:  “do to others what you would like to be done to you.”
  2. Teach your children to be assertive. Make sure they understand we can defend our rights without infringing on the rights of others. 
  3. Teach your children to be humble. Pride can lead to conflict in any social setting.
  4. Teach your children to accept others and embrace their uniqueness. Learning to celebrate our differences and finding our common ground is essential to getting along.
  5. Teach your children that “love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”
  6. Pray for your children and with your children.
  7. Educate yourself and find support in establishing guidelines to protect, discipline, and guide your children. 

Besides establishing what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior, our role as parents demands that we teach by example.  Bullying is a vicious cycle, and many of us have been bullies, victims and bystanders, and some continue to be today.

Sometimes our actions are so loud that our children can’t hear our words. Fear and pride are weapons of a spiritual battle and at the root of bullying, and eventually, crime.

This October, vow to end bullying by standing up for what is right and training up your children to do the same.

[ela]

38 thoughts on “7 Ways To Prevent and Stop Bullying In All Its Forms

  1. This is a great article. I have two boys, one in middle school and one in elementary still. I can see the effects of bullying already in other kids and it surprises me how young the bullies start! Crazy! Seems like it is much younger than when I was that age>

  2. Bullying is such a big issue in schools, communities, and society in general today. Creating awareness like you have done with this post is so important. Parental involvement is also key. Together we can accomplish so much!

  3. Bullying is such a big problem these days. It’s important to stop it before it starts by teaching our children to be kind to others even if they aren’t like them!

  4. Bullying is a huge problem that is often overlooked and it really, really bothers me. A few of my kids were targets and even to this day, even though I fought and got change, still bothers me to this day and I know them too.

  5. I love tip # 4 – embrace each other’s uniqueness. Teasing and taunting is because some people perceive others as “different.” Thank you for the tips. These are all valuable lessons we must teach our kids.

  6. Sadly, there are parents who don’t teach their kids the excellent tips you have recommended and that is where we must step in and be our child’s biggest advocate. I would also add to teach your child to communicate their worries, concerns, fears and school struggles with us/the parents. When they share, we can do something to help.

    • I agree and some kids can really be mean because they weren’t taught right. We should be the ones to monitor how our kids are doing in school and if they are being bullied.

  7. I also wish for a bullying-free world. I am a victim of verbal bullying during elementary. I guess it’s inevitable. It affects my confidence up until now. This post has great tips 🙂

  8. My grandmother taught me the golden rule (your #1) to treat others as you would have them treat you and it has stuck with me ever since. I find that bullies usually have such low self-esteem and are tormented with their own personal issues and that their actions are truly just a way to act out, get attention, and feel better about themselves.

  9. I wish there was no bullying. My daughter just had to fill out a bully report form at school because her former bff pushed her and she fell on the ground. This girl doesn’t have the best parents, so I know it comes from home 🙁

  10. I pray for and with my children. We dealt with a bully for awhile with my daughter. It’s a tough go when the bully has zero direction and no will to stop. I feel bad for the kids who feel satisfied when they hurt other people. That’s def. not what childhood is about.

  11. My kids had their share of being bullied, but of course, I was wonder woman and immediately confronted the teacher and the school principal about the incidents. The bully and his parents were called in and reprimanded. The child was put on disciplinary probation. I think teaching kids kindness should start at home.

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