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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

In fairy tales, the mirror usually shows us our true selves. And the mirror never lies. It tells us truths we would not rather hear; it shows us inner truths we’d rather not see. The mirror always reveals the true character, true feelings, and true intentions. I always believed this detail to be extremely impressive and wished, at times, I could get my hands on one of those magical gadgets.

My wish came true. Not exactly in the form of a handheld or hung mirror on my wall. The magic mirror had four legs and weighed at least 1000 pounds. Her name is Roxy, and she’s a gorgeous horse.

Elayna Fernandez - The Positive Mom - meets Roxy of HerdWise

We arrived in the field at about 4pm after a long, yet fun drive. We had been planning this encounter for months. I was big-bellied pregnant when Kathy Taylor, of HerdWise, invited us to “come out and hang out with the horses.” Such a generous offer and such a patient, love-filled Christian mompreneur.

There was no riding involved. We went in and started literally just introducing ourselves to the horses and getting to know them, too. Two majestically huge females, two adorably tiny males. My family fell in love with these stunning creatures as we disconnected from the world. I soon found out Kathy was not kidding when she said the horses had their own attitudes, personalities, and moods. It was a very intimate experience, and as you can guess, very relaxing.

And then it happened. I enrolled in the task of guiding Roxy through an obstacle course just a few feet away. I gently pulled on the harness and she did not move. Not one bit. She seemed stubborn and defiant, and this sent me an incredibly clear message that I was not being “herd.” LOL And I laugh about it now, but make no mistake… it was one of the most intense experiences I have faced in a long while.

I felt extremely uncomfortable about the harness – dozens of questions filled my mind: should I pull hard? does it hurt her?… It was challenging for me to lead her because I did not want to be mean to her. Kathy exchanged the harness, yet with a little piece of rope, I got the same result.

Kathy invited me to go deeper and, with her guidance, I finally figured out what this dynamic represented in my life. It was a metaphor for the need for boundaries, where I am settling, what keeps me stuck, what holds me back, what makes me uncomfortable in a relationship. Mirror, mirror, on the wall!

As soon as I released that tension, Roxy perked up and when I tried to lead her again, she moved forward. As I felt the rope tighten, I felt the tension and she stopped, again. Freedom is a high value for me and my deep desire is to walk freely side by side in partnership with those I love, rather than pull someone using “force.”

Roxy of HerdWise with The Fernandez Bare Family in Fort Worth Texas

Interacting with Roxy, Flo, Gus, and Rooster was a unique opportunity to learn how when I changed myself, the horses responded differently. They were my partners and my magic mirror. I felt a deeper understanding of how I was showing up and how they could read interpret my inner dialog, which commanded the results: trust and respect, or fear and resistance.

Uncovering yet another layer in my quest for self-discovery was so empowering – and it took feeling uncomfortable and facing the mirror of truth. Awareness is not always pretty, and it is the first step toward growth, perspective, safety, direction, clarity, and positive relationships.

Horses are powerful messengers that unlock a field of possibilities. This equine-guided experiential session in learning the art of self-mastery is definitely a transformational experience I’ll never forget, and I’ll be going back for more!

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Be Positive and You Will Be Powerful ~ Elayna FernandBe Positive and You Will Be Powerful ~ Elayna Fernandez ~ The Positive MOMez ~ The Positive MOM

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Leelo R

Thursday 8th of May 2014

Great post! I would love to try horse riding some day :)


Wednesday 7th of May 2014

I love watching horses on TV, but for seem reason I am terrified of them and can't stand to be to close to them.I wish I could have a mirror figure that one out for me.

Lexie Lane

Wednesday 7th of May 2014

You know, I have never had the chance to even be next to a horse. Though I probably would have felt the same as you if I did!


Wednesday 7th of May 2014

What an amazing experience! Sounds like you had a really great time! Thanks for sharing your story with us.

Joanna Sormunen

Wednesday 7th of May 2014

What a great way to get to know yourself! I think animals are a great mirror to us and really help us to learn who we are.