3 Powerful Ways To Conquer Your Fear

The water was beautiful, clear, and warm. I had my new bathing suit on and my shoes off. I was registered and ready! Or so I thought. The friendly instructor waved at me with an inviting smile. “You can come in!” she said, and my heart sank as I walked slowly toward her in the seemingly GIGANTIC pool.  I knew I was safe, yet I was terrified – the anxiety had been building up all day in anticipation of this event.

She gathered us up in a circle and asked us a few questions. As the others answered, I felt inadequate. Not only was I scared, I was the only one with NO swimming experience. My body was tense, the butterflies in my stomach, my heart was rapidly beating. I always tell the girls that the feelings of fear and excitement, passion, and love provoke the same response in our bodies, and we have to make a choice. I reminded myself that I had been waiting for this moment for decades, and I chose to be excited and embrace my opportunity!

courage is not the absence of fear

Don’t be ashamed to be afraid! As a matter of fact, the first step to change anything in our lives is to accept that it needs changing, fixing, or improving.

FEAR is a necessary human emotion that allows us to make safe decisions. It was good that I didn’t decide to dive in the ocean, because of my great faith and my fearless nature. Imagine that! The problem is when it stops us from doing what we desire, what is right, what we must do.

Courage is not the absence of fear. Being BRAVE is a choice to face the fear and to do what we must do, say what we must say, and be who we must be, anyway!

As I listened to my sweet instructor and saw my 10 year old daughter jump with joy in this moment we had longed for, I felt my energy shift from a paralyzing fear to an empowering faith that allowed me to trust. Elyssa and I both chose to willingly follow small steps, in faith.

This faith gave me permission to endure to what seemed like the longest 30 minutes of my existence – yes, including pushing babies out into the world. Isn’t that crazy?! I consciously let go of my past experiences, and avoided my worry of what could happen in the future from holding me back. Being in the PRESENT moment helped me enjoy the process, because I stopped judging myself and started focusing on what was truly happening: I was swimming!!!

I will go swim again tonight and I know my fear hasn’t been eliminated, but I am doing it anyway. In fact, I am looking forward to it. I know the first few seconds will be challenging, but if I can move past them, I will be okay victorious. It was pure awesomeness to be able to do it, and it will be even more amazing today!

What are you afraid of? Use these 3 powerful ways to conquer your fear and summon your courage:

  1. choose to be excited
  2. choose to trust
  3. choose to follow baby steps without judging yourself harshly

If I can do it, you can too. You can control your fear, you can release your fear, you can melt away your fear, you can ease your fear. You can be, do, and have what you desire when you focus on the truth of what you wish to create.

A mix of Ela+MLK: I’m free at last, I’m free at last, Thank God Almighty, I SWIM at last!

Elayna Fernandez - Author - 
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26 thoughts on “3 Powerful Ways To Conquer Your Fear

  1. Great advice for conquering fears. I have had a long battle with getting over the fear of deep water. I can “swim” when I need to , but not to the point where I am truly enjoying it. There’s also a bit of fear in the back of my head, but I don’t let it hold me back. Swimming is FUN!

    To answer your question, I fear losing my loved ones, and cancer.

  2. When I had my oldest I spent a very long time being afraid something bad would happen to him. It got to the point where we never left the house out of my. I didn’t get over that fear, but he is 6 now and I finally learned to deal with my own fear :). And the being excited does work! Now instead of dreaded taking him places I love the fact I get to show him new things

  3. Big congrats to you! I’m scared of mice. Hate them!! And my daughter wants them for pets, ha! That’d be a good way to get over the fear, but I”m not there yet (maybe never). 😉

    Congrats on the swimming!

  4. I think you need allot of courage to conquer fears.. I am afraid of heights and flying but i do them when i have to. I call it compensating for doing what i have to do.

  5. Great advice! You opened with a really engaging narrative too 🙂 It’s hard not to judge ourselves too harshly for being afraid because society tells us that fear is bad, but you’re so right. It would be foolish to fearlessly dive into the ocean if you don’t know how to swim. Baby steps…

  6. great advice! I’m afraid of spiders (and a variety of bugs) and while I certainly am nowhere near conquering the fear, I can at least be brave enough to take care of it for my kids- Now when my husband is home, it’s all up to him 😉

  7. These are really great tips for overcoming your fear. I have a serious fear of heights and I am claustrophobic and the first time in an airplane was horrifying. Haha. I tried to be excited but then I had a full on panic attack BUT coming home? MUCH easier because I knew what to expect!

  8. I love this message! My friend always says that fear is not a good reason not to do something, and I’ve taken that to heart. I also tell my daughter that being brave doesn’t mean you’re not scared…it means you are scared, but you do it anyway!

  9. I only learned to swim last year and experience taught me a lot not just about swimming but life lessons in general.

    For one, you are never too old to learn something new =)

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