Proud To Be A Latina Mom ~ Why Does Heritage Matter?

The room was full, all eyes on me, and I was in the middle of telling my story. The audience was silent, fully engaged, listening attentively the words that described the hardship of my childhood in the Dominican Republic.  She stood up, made an abrupt hand gesture, and interrupted:

“Are you living in the past? Why does the past matter?”

I thanked her for her question and paused to collect my thoughts. I was caught off guard, yet at the same time, I was quite excited at the opportunity to express the great significance of my past, of my culture, and my roots. My past has undeniably brought me to where I am today… I am the sum of all my choices, actions, and experiences. They say that those who do not know the past are doomed to repeat it, and though I understand why the past may seem irrelevant and of little practical value, I believe it is indeed the foundation for our identity as individuals.

I am a Dominican. Hispana. Latina. My heritage is at the heart of all I am and all I do. It has influenced the way I love, the way I parent… the way I live.

For many, the only culture that matters is the one you practice. Culture refers to the way of life, and we live in a global society where many cultures are interwoven. So what makes one embrace ONE in particular?

I was born and raised in the Dominican Republic, my first language is Spanish; my entire family and my best friends still live there. I’m petite in size, olive-colored skin, dark curly hair, English with an accent, and I kept my grandma’s family name.. the Latin factor is really obvious. But… what about my daughters? I’m raising them with a different language, values, beliefs, religion, parenting style, traditions, and even food choices than those of my parents and the ancestors that came before them.

I have been a naturalized American citizen for a few years now, I write in English and speak it on a daily basis, and people tell me I don’t sound like other Dominicans they know when I speak Spanish. In my home we don’t drink coffee in the morning (or ever), we don’t drink cerveza (or any type of alcohol), we don’t eat meat, we are LDS, and we’ve created our own philosophy of life. We are bilingual and bicultural. We have blended the traditions that most resonate with us from each culture: we celebrate a turkey-less Thanksgiving, and still do Reyes Magos on January 6.

Being Latina is not about what I do or don’t do, how I look, or what I do for a living. Being a Latina mom is not about racial characteristics or everyday rituals… Latinas come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Being Latina is an attitude, a mindset, a collection of values… a way of life.

  • Latina moms know the balance between working hard and letting loose
  • Latina moms believe in respecting their elders and honor the efforts of their parents to give them a good life
  • Latina moms are strong, brave warriors, and overcomers of the great hardships and struggles
Latina moms smile as they bear heavy burdens
  • Latina moms are loud, talk with their hands, scream with joy
  • Latina moms fight for what they believe in and stand up for their values and what matters to them
  • Latinas put their familia first and make time for family togetherness
  • Latina moms are affectionate. They are great huggers and kissers!
  • Latina moms cheer and celebrate each others’ success
  • Latina moms love musica. They sing and dance even when their heart is breaking
  • Latina moms want to make the world a better place for their children
  • Latina moms go out of their way to let you know you matter
  • Latina moms tell you the truth when it’s uncomfortable and when no one else will
  • Latina moms have tremendous purchasing power in the USA and influence brands
  • Latina moms are sisters, daughters, wives, and friends
  • Latina moms bring joy, hope and love to each room they enter, creating a happy atmosphere
  • Latina moms take pride in their heritage yet innovation excites them
  • Latina moms have a voice and they use it to inspire others, and support our communities
  • Latina moms are stubborn, strong, determined, dedicated, and hard working
  • Latina moms are entrepreneurial success seekers and want to fulfill the dream that our parents imagined for us
  • Latina moms cook delicious food and like to feed everyone
  • Latina moms have giving hands and they use them support their community
  • Latina moms encourage their kids to follow their dreams
  • Latina moms appreciate diversity, open-mindedness, and see the value of different perspectives
  • Latina moms know our voices and our culture matter
  • Latina moms are powerful, inspiring, proud of who they are and where they come from
  • Latina moms have a deep desire to preserve the language and the culture in future generations

proud to be latina and tecla awards finalist nominee

Being Latina motivates me because it is part of my identity wherever I live and wherever I go. There are endless reasons why I feel very proud and connected to my fascinating culture and I pray I can pass on the positive values it promotes to my daughters.

Growing up in the Dominican Republic has influenced everything in my life, and sharing those pieces with authenticity, owning my voice, and being real about where I came from is what makes the Hand of God so evident in my life. Without the ashes, there would be NO Cinderella. The past is where we look for strength and motivation to build a better future.

As I write to you from my hotel room in Miami, from Hispanicize, I am excited to celebrate my culture with thousands of Latino trendsetters, newsmakers, and digital influencers from all walks of life… and I am honored to have been selected as one of the Tecla Awards top three finalists for Best Latino Parenting Blog. As I reflect on my past and the blessings that my ancestors left behind, I am ready to leave my own personal mark in the world, and teach my kids to do the same. After all, my dream has always been to be “the great-great-grandmother everyone quotes and wants to be like.

I’m not living in the past. I am learning from the past, living in the present, and impacting the future. The past does matter. My culture does matter. My heritage does matter. And whatever your culture, it matters as well and it has a rich history that can impact you and future generations.

I’m proud to be a Latina mom. What makes you proud of your culture? How does your past matter today?

Elayna Fernandez - Author - 
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44 thoughts on “Proud To Be A Latina Mom ~ Why Does Heritage Matter?

  1. You live every single one of the values you listed big and bold. I’m so proud of you mi amor. Have an amazing time at Hispanicize 2015! I love you and I love your culture.

    You look incredibly sexy in your red carpet dress! I can’t wait for you to get back.

  2. You are the Little Latino POWERFUL MOM of the YEAR in my mind as well a Latino Blogger Mom! Your list of “what you stand for” alone could change a persons life when they read what power we really hold to influence our families.
    Proud of you and you look smashing young lady!!
    Nancy Sustersic
    The CEO of Fun!

  3. My kids are such a mix, I tell them that they are American rather than tying to break it all down. We celebrate all cultures.

  4. I don’t really know my heritage so I’ve never got the being proud of it – thought I think it is so cool that other people do and are – I would love one day to find out mine.

  5. My past matters today because it shows myself and my kids how you can overcome abuse and poverty. The past of someone can be beyond culture but of lifestyle. So much to learn from someone’s past.

  6. It’s great to be proud of your culture. I am proud of what my ancestors went through to bring a better life to their descendants.

  7. I think we should all embrace our culture. My kids have quite the mix, but we try to incorporate teaching them the values of our ancestors so they can be proud of their history too!

  8. I so agree that our past is so important and I really never figured that out until I reached my 40. Now there are so many things that I wish I would have paid attention to when my grandparents talked of their past.

  9. I’m not even fully sure of my background. My mom’s whole side passed away before I grew up and was able to question. My dad was adopted so there’s no answers there for us. We are Canadian so I guess that’s just all I can say until I can dig deeper.

  10. My family is a melting pot from all over the world so I celebrate being an American and living in the best country (in my opinion) in the world!

  11. I love how you were able to turn that negative into something positive. While we don’t live in the past (well some of us do), most of us are what we are because of our pasts. I embrace my culture and my past.

  12. As an adoptee, it was always important to me to learn about my biological roots. I m thankful was able to find my birthparents do that I could because I too believe that knowing your past, where you came from and how it has impacted who you are is important.

  13. To me heritage is so important! I am a Canadian mom and mu husband is Egyptian. Our children will learn about both of our cultures and heritage even from the past as we want them to know where we came from. You are an amazing Latina mom and should be very proud!

  14. Love this post! I’m not a mom, but every point you mention is important in our culture as well as others. I think the past is important because it shapes who we are. We keep the good and leave the bad. I love the idea of everyone sharing their culture because it’s what makes life interesting, and that’s not living in the past-it’s sharing who we are. 🙂

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