Someone does something unpleasant, a situation is difficult, an event is painful… we all have moments when we feel defeated, betrayed, discouraged, disappointed, and “when it rains it pours!”
Whether we acknowledge it or not, all challenges are meant to be opportunities to learn, grow, and expand.
Asking the right questions can help us find the blessings that are showing up disguised as a curse in our lives:
*Where Is The Love?
Our core essence is love. Love is Within and All Around. If someone wronged you, trust that the person did not willfully wish to hurt you. They are simply attempting to meet their own needs. I have experienced this many times.
When someone’s words and actions once deeply wounded me, I judged her as “evil”. I asked the question: “Why would she do this to me?”
For many years could not let go of the grudge – or the pain. When I consciously filled my heart with compassion and forgave her, I loved her…and myself.
Love is truth…”and the truth shall set you free.”
**Where Is The Lesson?
It is common to want to know what we did to deserve an experience or outcome we view as lousy and negative. “Why is this happening to me?”
Rewriting this simple question with the certainty that everything we experience happens FOR us and not TO us can shift everything!
I could write a whole library of events that may seem tragic to some, yet these very experiences shaped my life and created an incredible breakthrough, bringing forth amazing blessings.
When something causes us discomfort or excruciating pain, we can turn the obstacle into a positive motivator. Your attitude AND gratitude will guide you to see the lesson you were meant to learn so you can confidently move forward with your life…wiser, stronger, happier!
***Where Am I Going?
We decide how much power we will give that person, event, or circumstance we view as a roadblock in our path. We could dwell on it or decide to give it a new meaning.
During childbirth, I was determined to go it natural. I was in labor for 13 hours with Elisha and, the whole time, I was happy to endure because I knew I was getting a baby out of this! Imagining my perfectly healthy baby was a great self-motivation technique.
I know the outcome is not as clear under other times of pain, challenge, and struggle, however, if you decide to move forward with determination and faith that a miracle is in the making, you will see the miracle happen.
“You can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
The question to avoid is “Are we there yet?”. Much patience is required. Make the best of your journey. Time goes by faster when you’re having fun!
How we handle the challenges we face will determine our future success and happiness. Remember, YOU are a choice away from turning any obstacle into a blessing!
Elayna is a single mom of 4, award-winning Storyteller, Story Strategist, and Student of Pain. She’s a bestselling author, internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, and 4x TEDx speaker. Founder of the Positive MOM® and creator of the S.T.O.R.Y. System: a blueprint to craft and share powerful stories that will transform your results, so you can have the wealth, opportunities, and freedom you deserve. Connect with Elayna Fernández at thepositivemom.com/keynote-speaker and follow @thepositivemom. To receive a gift from Elayna, click HERE.
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