The Word You Should Never Use

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you’ll know I’m a confessed word nerd.  I constantly post about the power words have to shape our destiny.  You may think I’m exaggerating, but Proverbs 18:21 teaches us that “Death and Life are in the power of the tongue.”

The better I get with words, the more aware I am about the life and death in the words I hear, speak, read, and write. Sometimes I wish I didn’t read so much between the lines!

The guidelines “true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous, and praiseworthy” are a great start in deciding what to use and what to avoid, but somehow are not enough when it comes to designing a purposeful, conscious life.

the meaning of the word could - The Positive MOM BlogToday, I’d like to share the word you should never use. Yes, the word SHOULD!

If you look at the dictionary definition, the word “should’ makes you wrong: it is
used to indicate obligation when criticizing performance!

We all use “I should”  or “I should have” when we are beating ourselves up, and this is NOT a good practice!

the meaning of the word could - The Positive MOM Blog

A good alternative to use would be “I could.”  These words are full of possibility and choice, rather than shame and guilt.

When we decide to be our best self, we make a conscious effort to use kinder words toward others, and it is imperative that we extend that treatment to ourselves, as well.

Today, decide to use empowering words in your self talk and start thinking playfully about the “Coulds” in your life, and not worrying so much about the “Shoulds.”

Hakuna Matata!

Elayna Fernandez - Author - 
Speaker - Success Guide to Moms and Mompreneurs
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29 thoughts on “The Word You Should Never Use

  1. I love this post! I have been studying the power of words and it has made such a huge difference in my life. I am swapping ‘should’ for ‘could’. Thank you Elayna for sharing.

  2. I love it! I gave up the word “should” years ago, and have loved the change it brought, instantly ushering me from shame and blame to grace and love. So glad to come across others who know & share that good news! 🙂

  3. I am guilty of using the word very much and come to think of it, you are very right. It sounds harsh and critical. i will make conscious effort to change and avoid using it.

    thank you for the new thing i learned today

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  15. I say this word all of the time. And tell others they “should” all of the time too. I remember you saying you didn’t like that word. Cool short article on the power of suggestion and how a few letters make a world of a difference.

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