If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you’ll know I’m a confessed word nerd. I constantly post about the power words have to shape our destiny. You may think I’m exaggerating, but Proverbs 18:21 teaches us that “Death and Life are in the power of the tongue.”
The better I get with words, the more aware I am about the life and death in the words I hear, speak, read, and write. Sometimes I wish I didn’t read so much between the lines!
The guidelines “true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous, and praiseworthy” are a great start in deciding what to use and what to avoid, but somehow are not enough when it comes to designing a purposeful, conscious life.
If you look at the dictionary definition, the word “should’ makes you wrong: it is
used to indicate obligation when criticizing performance!
We all use “I should” or “I should have” when we are beating ourselves up, and this is NOT a good practice!
A good alternative to use would be “I could.” These words are full of possibility and choice, rather than shame and guilt.
When we decide to be our best self, we make a conscious effort to use kinder words toward others, and it is imperative that we extend that treatment to ourselves, as well.
Today, decide to use empowering words in your self talk and start thinking playfully about the “Coulds” in your life, and not worrying so much about the “Shoulds.”